A while back a commenter at The Courtship Pledge wrote a thought-provoking comment to men about their role in protecting women from temptations. He writes:
“…the weak link is from the female side who have the power of the whole legal system to detonate the best marriages. Within the church this can be addressed by social pressure and honour systems that discourage women from temptations.
This has been the role of religion since time immemorial, and the role of male headship. We should protect our wives and fathers should protect their daughters, not just physically but also mentally.
We should protect our woman with the following:
1. Limited consumption of today’s popular culture.
2. Awareness of association of destructive women, or women who show a poor example.
3. Active preaching about the unhappiness of today’s childless women.
4. Aim to raise as many children as possible, minimum 3.
5. Simple lifestyle based on raising children, and appropriate dress, hairstyle, make-up to reflect that.
The crux is that women who are actively engaged in raising children are busy and happier and don’t care about nice shoes, the next cruise, or going out partying. That’s basically it.
The busier the women are with household and kids, the happier they are.
This tests even our own brainwashing according to feminism. How many of us still think that women are unhappy as “breeders” or being the “fifties housewife”? We have been brainwashed ourselves and therefore can’t offer adequate headship.
We must take control ourselves. We have to be vigilant all the time. One tactic is by dropping appropriate comments at every opportunity. For example if we know of a mutual friend who divorces, we should express the tragedy and how unhappy that poor woman will now be. Or if we meet a woman who is childless we should say to our wives: “That poor woman, when she is 50 she will be miserable at spending Christmas with her *friends* instead of her children and grandchildren…” If we see a woman dressing and acting like a harlot, we should say “That poor woman, what will her children think if they saw her…” or “That poor woman she cannot find a husband that cherishes her…”
On the whole I think this may be good advice for men to use for gently (and quite realistically) influencing the women in their lives, provided that the context is one of loving concern for their women and not vindictive schadenfreude at the unhappiness of other women. Women today have so many life-destroying cultural memes and bad advice stemming from feminist ideology coming at them that it is no wonder young women might make foolish choices such as spending their youth accruing students loans for unprofitable degrees instead of preparing for marriage and a family. A man whose opinion she esteems simply observing the real world consequences of Eat-Pray-Love or feminist careerism could do a lot to help a young woman develop her ability to spot false teaching and bad advice.
We older women have an important role in this, too. We need to be guiding and teaching younger women about the importance of family-formation and how to go about forming a stable family while avoiding temptations such as sexual sin, divorce, and foolishness such as pursuing any education that does not directly lead to a decent income.
Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.