Gammas and shrews really aren’t that humorous.

I’ve been trying to understand for a while why some men will play at being the weak and foolish sidekick to the strong and competent female.  Even worse is when a man fakes fear of his woman to get a laugh.  You’ve all seen this, right?  It’s not just on TV; I’ve seen guys do this in real life.  Is it supposed to be self-effacing?  Humorous?  It really isn’t all that funny.  It is embarrassing for others to witness.

A while back I snapped this picture of a sign for sale at Hobby Lobby:

Beware of Wife

I suppose it’s supposed to be funny, but there is a passive aggressiveness to it, too.  Would the woman whose husband bought this sign and hung it up feel pleased or embarrassed, I wonder?  I don’t think having a sign like this even in jest says anything very positive about either the wife or the husband.  It implies that she’s a shrew and that he’s a snarky, passive-aggressive Gamma.

And then today while waiting for a prescription to be filled at the pharmacy, I was browsing idly in the gift section and snapped a picture of this placard:

He Rules the Roost

Again, I’m sure it’s supposed to be funny, but what kind of person would really buy this?  If the husband bought it as a joke for his wife, it reeks of passive-aggressive resentment and if the wife bought it herself, it says shrewish rhymes-with-witch.  Neither is particularly funny.

You know what these supposedly funny signs imply?

They imply that:

a. the husband doesn’t love his wife and

b.the wife doesn’t respect her husband and

c. humor is their weapon of choice to communicate their hatred and disrespect for one another while maintaining plausible deniability about what they’re doing.

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10 thoughts on “Gammas and shrews really aren’t that humorous.

  1. Is “gamma” the right word to describe this kind of male behavior? I know Vox Day has worked out a whole system for describing male behavior, but I don’t exactly know which is which. I just seem to remember reading something by him recently in which he described passive-aggressive men as “gamma”.

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    • I’d say so.

      Though I suspect that most of these men are actually Deltas acting like Gammas due to cultural pressure. With the right leader or the right culture, many of these men would be willing to take on a leadership role in their marriage, but they are natural followers (of men), so we’re not seeing that.

      The main male hierarchy as seen by Vox Day is as follows:

      Alphas – Leaders of men
      Betas – Second in Commands/Middle Management
      Deltas – Rank and file (most men)
      Gammas – Passive-aggressive, self-deluded fools who think they are Alphas

      In addition to these there are a few outsider ranks:

      Sigmas – Men who have checked out of the normal hierarchy, but who keep getting asked to come back and take over as an Alpha.
      Omegas – Men who have checked out of the normal hierarchy, who no one asks to come back.
      Lambdas – Queers.

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  2. I always cringe when I hear people talking about their partner like that. Does no one else consciously realize how disgusting it is? It’s utterly disrespectful and should never be tolerated. If there’s a problem, act like adults and address it directly, behind closed doors. But passive-aggressiveness is the norm today because people are too afraid of confrontation; it’s almost second nature. Having been born in the ’90s, I noticed it was the norm for me as well until I “took the red pill” as they say. Sadly, it’s still sometimes a conscious process to not engage in it. It most likely stems from the same place which causes so many people to rely on things like “in my opinion,” “I feel that,” and “maybe/most/some.” People are afraid of making any assertions or ‘rocking the boat.’

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    • If there’s a problem, act like adults and address it directly, behind closed doors.

      Agreed. And I’m not sure why, but I find it particularly unappealing when men are passive-aggressive.

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  3. Sometimes, it seems easier to heat up my own veggie soup when I am under the weather. Part of this may be due to bringing competition into the marriage.

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  4. Actually, I’d put that first sign up with pride, because my wife has more courage, brains and determination than most of the craven things that pass for men these days…and she’s a better shot than I am.

    I don’t fear my wife, but society at large might have reason to. 😀

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    • From that perspective, the sign is great! A “Beware of Dog” sign doesn’t convey the message that the owner is afraid of his own dog, it lets visitors know they should tread carefully because the dog serves and protects his master’s interests.

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